Perfect timing. I’m sitting waiting for a tow truck to get my broken car. I was paralyzed this morning about which shop to take it to. Being in an unknown town, I felt unmoored and I able to pick. I just made a call. Picked the one that looked the best. Who knows if it’s the “right” one. Right now I just need to fix my muffler so I can get home. 😜
Oh your way with words 🧡 I was just speaking to my best friend last week about how a Hell No to something is just as useful as a Hell Yes! Telling those voices apart can’t be tricky, I label them as the ego and the true self 🥰. A beautifully thought provoking letter 🧡
I love that part about having the gumption to live the answers in real time. Sometimes, it's so hard and so scary to act on what we know. Even when we know it for sure.
This beautiful post puts me in the mind of a line I read in Joan Didion's "The Year of Magical Thinking". She said "I knew, but I refused to know". Sometimes when I'm stuck, I find myself asking "what do you know, but refuse to know?" and it helps. Thanks for writing and sharing.
Thank you for this 🤍 I have spent a lot of time lately living in close quarters with what I don’t want to admit I know, and pretending it wasn’t there. Now I’m making friends with it, and with every thought and every opportunity, we’re asking each other: does this make sense and/or does this feel right? If it feels right, go for it, always. Happy Sunday!
Yes! I've spent a lot of time recently reflecting on how so much of what we know is buried so deeply beneath what we have been socialised to think, and how to reconnect with that knowing.
Beautifully written, as always, Sasha, and it’s prompted me to think about the way I make decisions, which is often intangible, under the surface. Thank you, and happy Sunday ❤️
This was so, so beautiful, friend. I had to read it a few times. This part—"I may not know what I want, but I can often easily identify what I don’t want. How I definitely don’t want to feel. How I don’t want to spend my time. I believe that you can garner just as much information and guidance on where you want to be, from knowing where you definitely don’t"—is how I have made many decisions in life. Chosen many paths. Or even just helped me take the first few steps. I have a feeling I'll be reading this one again ☺️
Absolutely love this, especially this quote "I can generally trust the knowing I feel now (or the knowing combined) because I’ve learnt what each of the voices sounds like and which I need to lean into more in that particular scenario (even if I don’t want to)." It is SO tempting to throw caution to the wind, as you say, but it's so necessary to sit with the voices of all kinds of knowing and appreciate what they're teaching and showing me about what I want and need. Thank you for this.
Perfect timing. I’m sitting waiting for a tow truck to get my broken car. I was paralyzed this morning about which shop to take it to. Being in an unknown town, I felt unmoored and I able to pick. I just made a call. Picked the one that looked the best. Who knows if it’s the “right” one. Right now I just need to fix my muffler so I can get home. 😜
Oh your way with words 🧡 I was just speaking to my best friend last week about how a Hell No to something is just as useful as a Hell Yes! Telling those voices apart can’t be tricky, I label them as the ego and the true self 🥰. A beautifully thought provoking letter 🧡
I love this. I often get decision paralysis, so thinking about what I don’t want first is a good reminder to lead me towards what I do. Thank you! ❤️
The boring truths we need ❤️ it's always the one right in front of us isn't it!
I love that part about having the gumption to live the answers in real time. Sometimes, it's so hard and so scary to act on what we know. Even when we know it for sure.
This beautiful post puts me in the mind of a line I read in Joan Didion's "The Year of Magical Thinking". She said "I knew, but I refused to know". Sometimes when I'm stuck, I find myself asking "what do you know, but refuse to know?" and it helps. Thanks for writing and sharing.
Thank you for this 🤍 I have spent a lot of time lately living in close quarters with what I don’t want to admit I know, and pretending it wasn’t there. Now I’m making friends with it, and with every thought and every opportunity, we’re asking each other: does this make sense and/or does this feel right? If it feels right, go for it, always. Happy Sunday!
Yes! I've spent a lot of time recently reflecting on how so much of what we know is buried so deeply beneath what we have been socialised to think, and how to reconnect with that knowing.
I adore this gentle prompt to say “I don’t know how I feel about that...” ✨thanks for this! Ever grateful for words and discoveries here on Substack!
Beautifully written, as always, Sasha, and it’s prompted me to think about the way I make decisions, which is often intangible, under the surface. Thank you, and happy Sunday ❤️
This was so, so beautiful, friend. I had to read it a few times. This part—"I may not know what I want, but I can often easily identify what I don’t want. How I definitely don’t want to feel. How I don’t want to spend my time. I believe that you can garner just as much information and guidance on where you want to be, from knowing where you definitely don’t"—is how I have made many decisions in life. Chosen many paths. Or even just helped me take the first few steps. I have a feeling I'll be reading this one again ☺️
Absolutely love this, especially this quote "I can generally trust the knowing I feel now (or the knowing combined) because I’ve learnt what each of the voices sounds like and which I need to lean into more in that particular scenario (even if I don’t want to)." It is SO tempting to throw caution to the wind, as you say, but it's so necessary to sit with the voices of all kinds of knowing and appreciate what they're teaching and showing me about what I want and need. Thank you for this.